How to give a real compliment: appreciation vs evaluation [Wise Wednesdays]
Most people struggle to give meaningful compliments to others let alone themselves. It can feel uncomfortable and awkward. I was speaking...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 26
- 2 min
Turn the unknown into your ally [Wise Wednesdays]
While doing some research on liberational coaching, I heard a quote: “The opposite of slavery is not freedom. The opposite of slavery is...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 26
- 2 min
My Weekend at a Buddhist Monastery [Wise Wednesdays]
Have you ever thought of running away to an ashram or monastery? As a transformational coach, I place importance on self-reflection and...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 26
- 2 min
Lean Back and nurture your health [Wise Wednesdays]
“Lean in”, they said. And women all over the world worked even harder. It helped to some extent. But if you’re overstimulated,...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 1 min
Work as a traumatic environment [Wise Wednesdays]
One of the insights that my clients find most liberating is that work can be a traumatic environment. You may have heard of ‘Moral...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 2 min
Embrace Who You Are and Do it Your Way [Wise Wednesdays]
Is it OK to be different? If you’ve been reading WW for a while you’ll guess that my short answer is… Yes! (If you’re new – a warm...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 2 min
You’re more powerful than you think [Wise Wednesdays]
My coach used to repeat this to me regularly. Eventually, I worked out my own version of it: you are more powerful than your THOUGHTS. Of...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 4 min
What does the ideal work culture look like? Biology, trust and choice [Wise Wednesdays]
It’s 4 years since I wrote a Wise Wednesdays about how “people don’t leave jobs but leave toxic work cultures”. It was widely shared and...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 3 min
Who are you comparing yourself to? [Wise Wednesdays]
Come on, we all do it. You’re having a bad day and you start looking over there, at that person and how they’re doing much better than...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 4 min
How to thrive in a job you don't like (or don’t love anymore) [Wise Wednesdays]
In any situation, you only have 4 options: Do nothing Change the situation Change your attitude about the situation Leave the situation....
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 3 min
3 insights for creating your website as an independent professional [Wise Wednesdays]
Mainstream entrepreneurship views digital technology - like a website - as a tool for marketing and sales. I’ve had some time to think...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 4 min
7 life experiments I ran on myself recently [Wise Wednesdays]
This year will mark 7 years of writing Wise Wednesdays and taking a career leap from medicine into coaching. It’s been 7 years of...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 2 min
Burnout Lifesaver 2023-2050 [Wise Wednesdays]
Burnout lifesaver [Wise Wednesdays] There’s one reason for burnout: our models of human activity are off. We're taught that more,...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 4 min
Dealing with ‘Empire Builders’ [Wise Wednesdays]
Have you ever had a colleague who seems to be involved in everything and know everyone? Perhaps they’re described as ‘ambitious’ or...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 3 min
What do bakers, butchers and doctors have in common?… [Wise Wednesdays]
Years ago, I had a colleague doctor who wanted to get more experience in the field and applied for a job in the military. He was asked...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 2 min
How I’ll be breaking free in 2023 [Wise Wednesdays]
I wasn’t born into royalty but sometimes life gives you a big seat at the table. Happy December! If you’re spending some time reflecting...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 2 min
There is no later [Wise Wednesdays]
A small group of passionate women leaders meet in a candle-lit cave. They’re tussling with the overwhelm of everyday life. So many...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 3 min
My one-word summary of 2022 [Wise Wednesdays]
It’s coming to that little turning point in the calendar. In the first half of the year, my energy felt sluggish. My actions seemed...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 3 min
Get off the hamster wheel (for a bit) [Wise Wednesdays]
London, 2010. I found myself at the Oxford and Cambridge club facilitating a conversation between a neuroscientist and an entrepreneur....
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 2 min
Goal-setting fatigue: make space for the unknown [Wise Wednesdays]
Setting goals is a healthy part of translating your dreams into reality. But in today's world, there are so many "shoulds," deadlines,...
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