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![Do you have to be narcissistic to succeed? Activate your Wild Bold Power [Wise Wednesdays]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_2bdfd3894d3044c1bc527e9039fca11c~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1000,h_1000,fp_0.50_0.50,q_30,blur_30,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_2bdfd3894d3044c1bc527e9039fca11c~mv2.jpg)
![Do you have to be narcissistic to succeed? Activate your Wild Bold Power [Wise Wednesdays]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_2bdfd3894d3044c1bc527e9039fca11c~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1080,h_1080,fp_0.50_0.50,q_90,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_2bdfd3894d3044c1bc527e9039fca11c~mv2.jpg)
Do you have to be narcissistic to succeed? Activate your Wild Bold Power [Wise Wednesdays]
Judging by recent election results, it might seem like success benefits from narcissistic or "dark triad" traits (narcissism,...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Nov 13, 20243 min read
![A story of humans, power, and the cycles of history [It’s Wise Wednesdays! #368]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_fdacdd099d0b4ba2aa5d89cd86b09995~mv2.png/v1/fill/w_989,h_586,fp_0.50_0.50,q_35,blur_30,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_fdacdd099d0b4ba2aa5d89cd86b09995~mv2.png)
![A story of humans, power, and the cycles of history [It’s Wise Wednesdays! #368]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_fdacdd099d0b4ba2aa5d89cd86b09995~mv2.png/v1/fill/w_989,h_586,fp_0.50_0.50,q_95,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_fdacdd099d0b4ba2aa5d89cd86b09995~mv2.png)
A story of humans, power, and the cycles of history [It’s Wise Wednesdays! #368]
I woke up this morning thinking of the plague. A documentary I’d recently watched had left an impression, and it came back to me...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Nov 6, 20243 min read
![When Your World Resists Definition: 9 Wise Wednesdays on Navigating Uncertainty [Wise Wednesdays #368]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_2a8f051077bc44f7a7bd6e754c97efd2~mv2.png/v1/fill/w_929,h_980,fp_0.50_0.50,q_35,blur_30,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_2a8f051077bc44f7a7bd6e754c97efd2~mv2.png)
![When Your World Resists Definition: 9 Wise Wednesdays on Navigating Uncertainty [Wise Wednesdays #368]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_2a8f051077bc44f7a7bd6e754c97efd2~mv2.png/v1/fill/w_929,h_980,fp_0.50_0.50,q_95,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_2a8f051077bc44f7a7bd6e754c97efd2~mv2.png)
When Your World Resists Definition: 9 Wise Wednesdays on Navigating Uncertainty [Wise Wednesdays #368]
In a world that grows more uncertain by the day, how do you find clarity? Many leaders, clients, and friends I speak with feel this...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Oct 30, 20242 min read
![Flattery, Boundaries, and Psychological Sovereignty: Reclaiming Your Power. [Wise Wednesdays #366]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_e333d900bdf3458f9d3348270f5f8f0b~mv2.png/v1/fill/w_806,h_605,fp_0.50_0.50,lg_1,q_35,blur_30,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_e333d900bdf3458f9d3348270f5f8f0b~mv2.png)
![Flattery, Boundaries, and Psychological Sovereignty: Reclaiming Your Power. [Wise Wednesdays #366]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_e333d900bdf3458f9d3348270f5f8f0b~mv2.png/v1/fill/w_806,h_605,fp_0.50_0.50,lg_1,q_95,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_e333d900bdf3458f9d3348270f5f8f0b~mv2.png)
Flattery, Boundaries, and Psychological Sovereignty: Reclaiming Your Power. [Wise Wednesdays #366]
Yesterday’s Leaders Circle on Boundaries left me contemplating for a long time. We touched on far more than simply saying ‘no’. What do...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Oct 30, 20243 min read
![What are you accidentally consenting to? [Wise Wednesdays #366]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_37dab7289d97490388c533386e60d1cf~mv2.png/v1/fill/w_571,h_528,fp_0.50_0.50,lg_1,q_35,blur_30,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_37dab7289d97490388c533386e60d1cf~mv2.png)
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What are you accidentally consenting to? [Wise Wednesdays #366]
The boss who gives you too much to handle? The colleague who talks over you? The schedule that doesn’t work for you anymore? What else?...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Oct 30, 20241 min read
![The cost of looking good. [Wise Wednesdays #365]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_5a267dc843ef410e9eab3d99692b4642~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1000,h_1000,fp_0.50_0.50,q_30,blur_30,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_5a267dc843ef410e9eab3d99692b4642~mv2.jpg)
![The cost of looking good. [Wise Wednesdays #365]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_5a267dc843ef410e9eab3d99692b4642~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1080,h_1080,fp_0.50_0.50,q_90,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_5a267dc843ef410e9eab3d99692b4642~mv2.jpg)
The cost of looking good. [Wise Wednesdays #365]
In Victorian times, it was fashionable to build ornate structures in gardens called follies . These architectural features served no real...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Oct 2, 20242 min read
![The Recovering Overachiever’s Path: Transformational Boundaries [Wise Wednesdays #364]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_446af213f724487da4ed51f0b48b414e~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1000,h_1000,fp_0.50_0.50,q_30,blur_30,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_446af213f724487da4ed51f0b48b414e~mv2.jpg)
![The Recovering Overachiever’s Path: Transformational Boundaries [Wise Wednesdays #364]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_446af213f724487da4ed51f0b48b414e~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1080,h_1080,fp_0.50_0.50,q_90,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_446af213f724487da4ed51f0b48b414e~mv2.jpg)
The Recovering Overachiever’s Path: Transformational Boundaries [Wise Wednesdays #364]
One of the first Wise Wednesdays in 2016 was called The High Achiever’s Secret Dream . It explored the hidden drives behind...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Sep 25, 20242 min read
![Be a gracious ‘no’. [Wise Wednesdays #363]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_8a40b7bcbfc441e587a9a5a199c55adc~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1000,h_1000,fp_0.50_0.50,q_30,blur_30,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_8a40b7bcbfc441e587a9a5a199c55adc~mv2.jpg)
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Be a gracious ‘no’. [Wise Wednesdays #363]
My coach once gave a challenge to practise saying: I’m a gracious ‘no’. It was inspired by the words of Warren Buffett: The difference...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Sep 18, 20242 min read
![Are You in a Survival Trap? [Wise Wednesdays #362]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_d37f455508b94c7bb4c783caff95eff3~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1000,h_1000,fp_0.50_0.50,q_30,blur_30,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_d37f455508b94c7bb4c783caff95eff3~mv2.jpg)
![Are You in a Survival Trap? [Wise Wednesdays #362]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_d37f455508b94c7bb4c783caff95eff3~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1080,h_1080,fp_0.50_0.50,q_90,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_d37f455508b94c7bb4c783caff95eff3~mv2.jpg)
Are You in a Survival Trap? [Wise Wednesdays #362]
The Success Trap is when your past success gets in the way of your future success. The Survival Trap is quite similar. What do I mean?...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Sep 11, 20242 min read
![Are you an influencer or sensemaker? [Wise Wednesdays #361]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_627a8839fa6d4bd58d2d370139046ffb~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1000,h_1000,fp_0.50_0.50,q_30,blur_30,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_627a8839fa6d4bd58d2d370139046ffb~mv2.jpg)
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Are you an influencer or sensemaker? [Wise Wednesdays #361]
Do you ever feel like your impact isn’t enough, especially when you compare yourself to the massive followings of influencers on social...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Sep 11, 20241 min read
![5 signs of Achiever Trauma [Wise Wednesdays #360]](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/Co9ZlWwZ4j4/maxresdefault.jpg)
5 signs of Achiever Trauma [Wise Wednesdays #360]
In conversation with a dear friend this week, we talked about Achiever Trauma. Working with high achievers and considering myself a...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Aug 14, 20243 min read
![You’re not a slave [Wise Wednesdays #359]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_f20a67d95f19468397697e23964187a8~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1333,h_1000,fp_0.50_0.50,q_30,blur_30,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_f20a67d95f19468397697e23964187a8~mv2.jpg)
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You’re not a slave [Wise Wednesdays #359]
Returning from a reflective 10-day trip to Algeria, I felt drawn to rewatch the Elvis movie. While I've never been a huge fan of his...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Aug 14, 20243 min read
![Is fear useful? 3 tools to face it. [#WiseWednesdays #358]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_bb5c2fa7d97a41f7ad040cdcad923710~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1000,h_1000,fp_0.50_0.50,q_30,blur_30,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_bb5c2fa7d97a41f7ad040cdcad923710~mv2.jpg)
![Is fear useful? 3 tools to face it. [#WiseWednesdays #358]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_bb5c2fa7d97a41f7ad040cdcad923710~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1080,h_1080,fp_0.50_0.50,q_90,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_bb5c2fa7d97a41f7ad040cdcad923710~mv2.jpg)
Is fear useful? 3 tools to face it. [#WiseWednesdays #358]
If you’ve achieved anything in your life, you know that facing the fear and doing it anyway is part of the process. But when we hit a...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Jul 17, 20243 min read
![Are You in a Narcissistic Relationship with Your Career? [Wise Wednesdays #357]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_fbdeed61b2f3421ba107e5d55631bd3c~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1000,h_1000,fp_0.50_0.50,q_30,blur_30,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_fbdeed61b2f3421ba107e5d55631bd3c~mv2.jpg)
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Are You in a Narcissistic Relationship with Your Career? [Wise Wednesdays #357]
I know ‘narcissistic’ is a strong word, but hear me out. High achievers and changemakers often pour their hearts into their careers. But...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Jul 10, 20243 min read
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6-question self-leadership checklist [Wise Wednesdays #356]
A quick checklist to consider... I recently had a plumber replace a few pipes in my home. Watching him work made me realise that we often...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Jul 3, 20242 min read
![Should you push yourself (or let go)? [Wise Wednesdays #355]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_ffad0526eb654df1ae70739926c1502d~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_800,h_800,fp_0.50_0.50,q_30,blur_30,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_ffad0526eb654df1ae70739926c1502d~mv2.jpg)
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Should you push yourself (or let go)? [Wise Wednesdays #355]
I believe Bruce Lee definitively settled this question: "Be like water”, reviving the Eastern philosophy idea found in Taoism and...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Jun 26, 20244 min read
![When a soldier waved a gun at me [Wise Wednesdays #354]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_c0f29513ac654f569fb69aeb623be79a~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1000,h_1000,fp_0.50_0.50,q_30,blur_30,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_c0f29513ac654f569fb69aeb623be79a~mv2.jpg)
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When a soldier waved a gun at me [Wise Wednesdays #354]
It was actually a drunken soldier carrying an AK-47. The nurse and I left our village base in South Sudan to take a walk in the bush, and...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Jun 19, 20243 min read
![5 types of supportive conversation [Wise Wednesdays #353]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_0ddc5034bc394868aeb7f9ebee2f97c5~mv2.png/v1/fill/w_1000,h_1000,fp_0.50_0.50,q_35,blur_30,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_0ddc5034bc394868aeb7f9ebee2f97c5~mv2.png)
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5 types of supportive conversation [Wise Wednesdays #353]
Effective conversations are crucial in our fast-paced, complex, globalised world. Coaching skills are becoming increasingly important,...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Jun 12, 20242 min read
![9 things to Stop, Start, or Maintain [Wise Wednesdays #352]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_cc6363b4e67c408caa509a7bb8137746~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1000,h_1000,fp_0.50_0.50,q_30,blur_30,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_cc6363b4e67c408caa509a7bb8137746~mv2.jpg)
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9 things to Stop, Start, or Maintain [Wise Wednesdays #352]
During the pandemic, I used to have a calendar slot at the weekend called: Declutter.As I let go of certain projects, I had bandwidth to...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
May 29, 20243 min read
![Why you don’t know what you want sometimes [Wise Wednesdays]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_1e9ed5f2510440b09e35cbb25d222a56~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1780,h_1000,fp_0.50_0.50,q_30,blur_30,enc_avif,quality_auto/d29dd9_1e9ed5f2510440b09e35cbb25d222a56~mv2.jpg)
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Why you don’t know what you want sometimes [Wise Wednesdays]
I’ve had a few coaching conversations recently about what to do when you have a great job and life but want more and can’t put your...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
May 22, 20243 min read
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