The cost of looking good. [Wise Wednesdays #365]
In Victorian times, it was fashionable to build ornate structures in gardens called follies . These architectural features served no real...
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![The cost of looking good. [Wise Wednesdays #365]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_5a267dc843ef410e9eab3d99692b4642~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1080,h_1080,fp_0.50_0.50,q_90,enc_auto/d29dd9_5a267dc843ef410e9eab3d99692b4642~mv2.jpg)
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Sep 252 min
The Recovering Overachiever’s Path: Transformational Boundaries [Wise Wednesdays #364]
One of the first Wise Wednesdays in 2016 was called The High Achiever’s Secret Dream . It explored the hidden drives behind...
![Be a gracious ‘no’. [Wise Wednesdays #363]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_8a40b7bcbfc441e587a9a5a199c55adc~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1080,h_1080,fp_0.50_0.50,q_90,enc_auto/d29dd9_8a40b7bcbfc441e587a9a5a199c55adc~mv2.jpg)
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Sep 182 min
Be a gracious ‘no’. [Wise Wednesdays #363]
My coach once gave a challenge to practise saying: I’m a gracious ‘no’. It was inspired by the words of Warren Buffett: The difference...
![Are You in a Survival Trap? [Wise Wednesdays #362]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_d37f455508b94c7bb4c783caff95eff3~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1080,h_1080,fp_0.50_0.50,q_90,enc_auto/d29dd9_d37f455508b94c7bb4c783caff95eff3~mv2.jpg)
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Sep 112 min
Are You in a Survival Trap? [Wise Wednesdays #362]
The Success Trap is when your past success gets in the way of your future success. The Survival Trap is quite similar. What do I mean?...
![Are you an influencer or sensemaker? [Wise Wednesdays #361]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_627a8839fa6d4bd58d2d370139046ffb~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1080,h_1080,fp_0.50_0.50,q_90,enc_auto/d29dd9_627a8839fa6d4bd58d2d370139046ffb~mv2.jpg)
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Sep 111 min
Are you an influencer or sensemaker? [Wise Wednesdays #361]
Do you ever feel like your impact isn’t enough, especially when you compare yourself to the massive followings of influencers on social...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Aug 143 min
5 signs of Achiever Trauma [Wise Wednesdays #360]
In conversation with a dear friend this week, we talked about Achiever Trauma. Working with high achievers and considering myself a...
![You’re not a slave [Wise Wednesdays #359]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_f20a67d95f19468397697e23964187a8~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1168,h_876,fp_0.50_0.50,q_90,enc_auto/d29dd9_f20a67d95f19468397697e23964187a8~mv2.jpg)
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Aug 143 min
You’re not a slave [Wise Wednesdays #359]
Returning from a reflective 10-day trip to Algeria, I felt drawn to rewatch the Elvis movie. While I've never been a huge fan of his...
![Is fear useful? 3 tools to face it. [#WiseWednesdays #358]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_bb5c2fa7d97a41f7ad040cdcad923710~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1080,h_1080,fp_0.50_0.50,q_90,enc_auto/d29dd9_bb5c2fa7d97a41f7ad040cdcad923710~mv2.jpg)
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Jul 173 min
Is fear useful? 3 tools to face it. [#WiseWednesdays #358]
If you’ve achieved anything in your life, you know that facing the fear and doing it anyway is part of the process. But when we hit a...
![Are You in a Narcissistic Relationship with Your Career? [Wise Wednesdays #357]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_fbdeed61b2f3421ba107e5d55631bd3c~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1080,h_1080,fp_0.50_0.50,q_90,enc_auto/d29dd9_fbdeed61b2f3421ba107e5d55631bd3c~mv2.jpg)
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Jul 103 min
Are You in a Narcissistic Relationship with Your Career? [Wise Wednesdays #357]
I know ‘narcissistic’ is a strong word, but hear me out. High achievers and changemakers often pour their hearts into their careers. But...
![6-question self-leadership checklist [Wise Wednesdays #356]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_fdff4ba475704332a43a84bad040a671~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1080,h_1080,fp_0.50_0.50,q_90,enc_auto/d29dd9_fdff4ba475704332a43a84bad040a671~mv2.jpg)
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Jul 32 min
6-question self-leadership checklist [Wise Wednesdays #356]
A quick checklist to consider... I recently had a plumber replace a few pipes in my home. Watching him work made me realise that we often...
![Should you push yourself (or let go)? [Wise Wednesdays #355]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_ffad0526eb654df1ae70739926c1502d~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_800,h_800,fp_0.50_0.50,q_90,enc_auto/d29dd9_ffad0526eb654df1ae70739926c1502d~mv2.jpg)
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Jun 264 min
Should you push yourself (or let go)? [Wise Wednesdays #355]
I believe Bruce Lee definitively settled this question: "Be like water”, reviving the Eastern philosophy idea found in Taoism and...
![When a soldier waved a gun at me [Wise Wednesdays #354]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_c0f29513ac654f569fb69aeb623be79a~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1080,h_1080,fp_0.50_0.50,q_90,enc_auto/d29dd9_c0f29513ac654f569fb69aeb623be79a~mv2.jpg)
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Jun 193 min
When a soldier waved a gun at me [Wise Wednesdays #354]
It was actually a drunken soldier carrying an AK-47. The nurse and I left our village base in South Sudan to take a walk in the bush, and...
![5 types of supportive conversation [Wise Wednesdays #353]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_0ddc5034bc394868aeb7f9ebee2f97c5~mv2.png/v1/fill/w_1080,h_1080,fp_0.50_0.50,q_95,enc_auto/d29dd9_0ddc5034bc394868aeb7f9ebee2f97c5~mv2.png)
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Jun 122 min
5 types of supportive conversation [Wise Wednesdays #353]
Effective conversations are crucial in our fast-paced, complex, globalised world. Coaching skills are becoming increasingly important,...
![9 things to Stop, Start, or Maintain [Wise Wednesdays #352]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_cc6363b4e67c408caa509a7bb8137746~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1080,h_1080,fp_0.50_0.50,q_90,enc_auto/d29dd9_cc6363b4e67c408caa509a7bb8137746~mv2.jpg)
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
May 293 min
9 things to Stop, Start, or Maintain [Wise Wednesdays #352]
During the pandemic, I used to have a calendar slot at the weekend called: Declutter.As I let go of certain projects, I had bandwidth to...
![Why you don’t know what you want sometimes [Wise Wednesdays]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_1e9ed5f2510440b09e35cbb25d222a56~mv2.jpg/v1/fill/w_1168,h_656,fp_0.50_0.50,q_90,enc_auto/d29dd9_1e9ed5f2510440b09e35cbb25d222a56~mv2.jpg)
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
May 223 min
Why you don’t know what you want sometimes [Wise Wednesdays]
I’ve had a few coaching conversations recently about what to do when you have a great job and life but want more and can’t put your...
![Should you brag about your work? [Wise Wednesdays]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_5996625c431046a6852a8fabc49d4bda~mv2.png/v1/fill/w_1080,h_1080,fp_0.50_0.50,q_95,enc_auto/d29dd9_5996625c431046a6852a8fabc49d4bda~mv2.png)
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
May 153 min
Should you brag about your work? [Wise Wednesdays]
It’s not bragging if you’ve done it. That’s what my coach Rich Litvin used to say to me. I came across a message from a well-respected...
![Don’t get too involved with your ‘purpose’ [Wise Wednesdays]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_cc34a23f90294e8a84b1b214b144cdaa~mv2.png/v1/fill/w_504,h_497,fp_0.50_0.50,lg_1,q_95,enc_auto/d29dd9_cc34a23f90294e8a84b1b214b144cdaa~mv2.png)
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
May 13 min
Don’t get too involved with your ‘purpose’ [Wise Wednesdays]
There’s purpose with a big P and little p. Big P purpose? You’re here as a unique expression of conscious life. No one knows, how it...
![Career crisis as a path to liberation [Wise Wednesdays]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_2f979346f5244f43b9d13ed408dbf5c4~mv2.png/v1/fill/w_501,h_499,fp_0.50_0.50,lg_1,q_95,enc_auto/d29dd9_2f979346f5244f43b9d13ed408dbf5c4~mv2.png)
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Apr 242 min
Career crisis as a path to liberation [Wise Wednesdays]
It’s impossible to have a 21st century career without facing a crisis at some point. The research which I discuss in The Success Trap...
![Inspiration from a London Plane tree [Wise Wednesdays]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_c1828c50844b4f9c8108e797ae10d2dc~mv2.png/v1/fill/w_499,h_504,fp_0.50_0.50,lg_1,q_95,enc_auto/d29dd9_c1828c50844b4f9c8108e797ae10d2dc~mv2.png)
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Apr 172 min
Inspiration from a London Plane tree [Wise Wednesdays]
This week, I just want to share the beauty of a tree on a spring day with you. Why? Because nature reveals the answers to your biggest...
![8 years in business, 8 highlights, 8 insights. [Wise Wednesdays]](https://static.wixstatic.com/media/d29dd9_4205bef5dae94171ae2fde7fcff82d91~mv2.png/v1/fill/w_506,h_516,fp_0.50_0.50,lg_1,q_95,enc_auto/d29dd9_4205bef5dae94171ae2fde7fcff82d91~mv2.png)
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
Apr 103 min
8 years in business, 8 highlights, 8 insights. [Wise Wednesdays]
[Happy Eid if you are celebrating this week! May the fruit of your spiritual work nourish the world.] It was the summer of 2014. I was...
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