The 4Rs for navigating confusing power dynamics [Wise Wednesdays]
“Don’t you dare give me that attitude”, he snapped. “What attitude?”, I thought. Within a few seconds I found myself at the receiving end...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
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I am no longer available for this [Wise Wednesdays]
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Sep 6
- 3 min
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Jul 26
- 3 min
The beauty of boredom [Wise Wednesdays]
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Jul 19
- 3 min
3 ways to turn a crisis into a gift [Wise Wednesdays]
So in the space of 3 years, we’ve had to face the cost of living crisis, the energy crisis, the Covid crisis, a new war, etc. But has...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Jul 12
- 4 min
The joy and messiness of life – 5 questions [Wise Wednesdays]
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Jul 5
- 3 min
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Jun 28
- 2 min
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So you’re thinking of dusting off your CV and looking to new horizons? Or just keeping your options open? I seem to have had a few...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Jun 14
- 2 min
Stop Scrolling and Do It [Wise Wednesdays]
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Jun 7
- 2 min
The antidote to self-doubt [Wise Wednesdays]
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- May 31
- 3 min
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My CV was a meter long. I had more letters in my name than behind my name as my coach pointed out. But I still felt inadequate most of...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- May 24
- 2 min
The Only Lesson That Matters + Happy 7th Anniversary [Wise Wednesdays]
I had just completed my Tony Robbins coaching certificate and felt ready to start taking on clients. And it worked. The plan was to do...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- May 17
- 3 min
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- May 10
- 2 min
How to break free of anxiety [Wise Wednesdays]
It’s an immense joy when clients start to notice people saying to them: “You seem calmer and more confident recently. What happened?” As...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- May 3
- 2 min
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Most people struggle to give meaningful compliments to others let alone themselves. It can feel uncomfortable and awkward. I was speaking...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 26
- 2 min
Turn the unknown into your ally [Wise Wednesdays]
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 26
- 2 min
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 26
- 2 min
Lean Back and nurture your health [Wise Wednesdays]
“Lean in”, they said. And women all over the world worked even harder. It helped to some extent. But if you’re overstimulated,...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 1 min
Work as a traumatic environment [Wise Wednesdays]
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 2 min
Embrace Who You Are and Do it Your Way [Wise Wednesdays]
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