Why you shouldn’t focus on goals (do this instead)
A super-achiever client asked me last week: how can I relate more healthily to goals? Great question. She’s an all-round power house...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 4 min
The power of the victim: the cause of self-sabotage
Do you feel powerful? Power is such a charged word. I had a coaching conversation with one of my friends who is a senior manager in the...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 3 min
The paradox of the high achiever: winning “the rat race” and losing happiness [Wise Wednesdays]
What do you do after you’ve won the rat race?... When Alexandra and I met 3 years ago, she felt overwhelmed by work. She wanted coaching...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 2 min
Breaking through the wall of fear: don’t wait too long [Wise Wednesdays]
How do you know when to leave your job or change your life? I had an exploratory coaching conversation with an engineering executive...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 2 min
If you don’t belong anywhere, enjoy everywhere
If you’re someone who feels like an outsider often, paradoxically, you may also be the type of person who can adapt everywhere. Besides,...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 5 min
Can you eliminate stress from your life? 4 options for any situation
Is it possible to live a life free from stress? Or is that a utopia reserved for dreamers? The question came up last week at The Leaders...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 4 min
Is it OK to be bored? 3 ways to enjoy it for recovering overachievers
What do you do when you get bored? This question often comes up in a client’s coaching journey. It’s sometimes because they start to slow...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 5 min
The antidote to the toxic survival drive
I visited a drone factory last week. The UK’s top Unmanned Air Vehicle manufacturer gave us a highly informative tour. The day before, I...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 4 min
Should you speak up in meetings? 4 marks of the modern warrior-healer
Interesting things happen when you slow down. Your insight develops; your choices and opportunities multiply where you thought you were...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 3 min
The toxicity of constant urgency and 2 types of self-kindness as antidotes
There’s a fine line between purposeful productivity and meaningless exploitation. But is the line really that fine? Following last week’s...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 3 min
Who’s responsible for work culture toxicity? 4 things leaders must do
I was at an industry conference recently when I heard the strangest thing. [Read on or watch the video.] https://youtu.be/l5q2FMVA9z4 ...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 3 min
Dealing with toxic people and employees: 3 myths and 1 truth
We had an interesting monthly webinar playing out difficult communication scenarios. Here’s the replay if you missed it and welcome to...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 3 min
3 lessons from 3 years in business after a big career leap
It’s almost 3 years to the day since the first Wise Wednesdays edition (Curing cabin fever: 3 strategies), and that I took a career leap...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 5 min
The key to mental detox: deactivate limbic hijack
OK, it’s a long one because it’s a theme I feel passionate about. Most questions can be boiled down to: “I don’t know what to do” and...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 3 min
You’re not a machine: how to stay human (and sane) in a tech world
I started noticing the seasons. After a couple of years of working for myself I was noticing the seasons more. When I worked full time in...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 3 min
How to create a better work culture using your words: 4 principles
Have you ever noticed how a perfectly harmless conversation can turn negative at the flick of a switch? All it takes is for someone to...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 4 min
Healing from work culture toxicity: 3 steps
Last weekend, I attended a mindfulness retreat on our relationship to work and money. It reminded me of the extent to which we operate...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 3 min
A 4 day work week?
Welcome if you’re new! Thank you, for subscribing and I hope you enjoy Wise Wednesdays. “A ship in harbor is safe, but that is not what...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 3 min
What is a toxic work culture?..
A couple of weeks ago, Wise Wednesdays focused on the importance of psychological safety to create high performing teams and healthy work...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 3 min
How many slaves work for you? (8 ways to break free of toxic work cultures)
Welcome if you’re new! Continuing along the theme of shorter Wise Wednesdays, here are the key insights I gathered over the past week...
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