Why you shouldn’t focus on goals (do this instead)
A super-achiever client asked me last week: how can I relate more healthily to goals? Great question. She’s an all-round power house...
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DR. AMINA AITSI-SELMI MD PHD
Award-Winning Coach and Author
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Feb 1, 2022
- 4 min
The power of the victim: the cause of self-sabotage
Do you feel powerful? Power is such a charged word. I had a coaching conversation with one of my friends who is a senior manager in the...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Feb 1, 2022
- 3 min
The paradox of the high achiever: winning “the rat race” and losing happiness [Wise Wednesdays]
What do you do after you’ve won the rat race?... When Alexandra and I met 3 years ago, she felt overwhelmed by work. She wanted coaching...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Feb 1, 2022
- 2 min
Breaking through the wall of fear: don’t wait too long [Wise Wednesdays]
How do you know when to leave your job or change your life? I had an exploratory coaching conversation with an engineering executive...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Feb 1, 2022
- 2 min
If you don’t belong anywhere, enjoy everywhere
If you’re someone who feels like an outsider often, paradoxically, you may also be the type of person who can adapt everywhere. Besides,...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Feb 1, 2022
- 5 min
Can you eliminate stress from your life? 4 options for any situation
Is it possible to live a life free from stress? Or is that a utopia reserved for dreamers? The question came up last week at The Leaders...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Feb 1, 2022
- 4 min
Is it OK to be bored? 3 ways to enjoy it for recovering overachievers
What do you do when you get bored? This question often comes up in a client’s coaching journey. It’s sometimes because they start to slow...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Feb 1, 2022
- 5 min
The antidote to the toxic survival drive
I visited a drone factory last week. The UK’s top Unmanned Air Vehicle manufacturer gave us a highly informative tour. The day before, I...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Feb 1, 2022
- 4 min
Should you speak up in meetings? 4 marks of the modern warrior-healer
Interesting things happen when you slow down. Your insight develops; your choices and opportunities multiply where you thought you were...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Feb 1, 2022
- 3 min
The toxicity of constant urgency and 2 types of self-kindness as antidotes
There’s a fine line between purposeful productivity and meaningless exploitation. But is the line really that fine? Following last week’s...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Feb 1, 2022
- 3 min
Who’s responsible for work culture toxicity? 4 things leaders must do
I was at an industry conference recently when I heard the strangest thing. [Read on or watch the video.] https://youtu.be/l5q2FMVA9z4 ...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Feb 1, 2022
- 3 min
Dealing with toxic people and employees: 3 myths and 1 truth
We had an interesting monthly webinar playing out difficult communication scenarios. Here’s the replay if you missed it and welcome to...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Feb 1, 2022
- 3 min