The true wisdom of guilt and procrastination [Wise Wednesdays]
Reflecting on coaching conversations this past month brought me to a conclusion: we believe in guilt too much. Guilt says: You should be...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 4 min
Why your present predicts your past (and therefore your future) [Wise Wednesdays]
Do you sometimes feel like you’re a problem-solving machine? Whatever problem life throws at you, you get your teeth stuck right in there...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 2 min
Why your ‘weirdness’ is a gift [Wise Wednesdays]
Why your ‘weirdness’ is a gift [Wise Wednesdays] If you have a slightly unusual background, you might feel like a perpetual outsider. And...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 4 min
How to know when to speak up: 5 questions to check in with yourself [Wise Wednesdays]
Ram Dass once said: You think you’re enlightened? Go spend a week with your family!... Whether it’s colleagues, teams or family,...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 4 min
How I found the deep wealth I was looking for [Wise Wednesdays]
It was a week before the conference. We were supposed to finalise a fantastic agenda to inspire hundreds who were working at the...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 4 min
Why “failure” was my greatest teacher [Wise Wednesdays]
When I was preparing for a big career leap, I had the sense that it was best to keep it quiet. I only told a few people on a need-to-know...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 4 min
How I ended my career and strengthened my vocation [Wise Wednesdays]
During the pandemic, some people asked me: do you miss working as a doctor or in public health? It can be a little awkward because I...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 5 min
How to deal with dark personalities at work [Wise Wednesdays]
The higher up you go in an organisation, the greater the prevalence of narcissists and psychopaths. Careers with the highest proportion...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 3 min
How to let go of constant urgency: time management for humans [Wise Wednesdays]
I’ve bought a few more books than usual over pandemic. I’d like to recommend one in particular because it digs deep into a common...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 2 min
How to avoid ‘mistakes’ [Wise Wednesdays]
The word ‘mistake’ comes from the Old Norse ‘mistaka’ which means ‘to take in error’. Error comes from the Latin ‘to wander about’. (My...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 6 min
Why old patterns return and how to break them [Wise Wednesdays]
“Why have I fallen back into that old pattern?” Have you ever experienced this? It’s something we discussed at length in the Presence...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 1 min
Is it ever too late to do a PhD?
[Is it ever too late to do a PhD?] Someone asked me this month. To answer the question, I invited my old friend and now Professor David...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 6 min
How to ace an interview: 3 questions to focus on [Wise Wednesdays]
I was speaking with a friend yesterday. She loves her field and has applied for a great job. It could be the next step in her bigger...
Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 2 min
IS FEMININE LEADERSHIP ONLY FOR WOMEN? 3 REASONS TO EMBRACE IT [WISE WEDNESDAYS]
You’re probably already using feminine (and masculine) leadership. But what is it? There’s no consensus, but the distinction might be:...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 2 min
5 ways to get over disappointment fast [Wise Wednesdays]
As I wrote the title, I realised it needed an adjustment: we don’t get over disappointment. We get through it. But it’s not how it feels...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 2 min
One question to transform your life and career [Wise Wednesdays]
Well, after last week’s mammoth Wise Wednesdays, I thought I should keep this one shorter... The amount of information, tools and...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 8 min
Treat your career as a temple: 7 principles for more flow and less struggle [Wise Wednesdays]
Well, it’s a long one. Wise Wednesdays is back with a vengeance after a break! First of a new season written with some heaviness of heart...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 4 min
Influence without the ego [Wise Wednesdays]
How can I influence better at work? It’s a question that often comes up in coaching. After all, how can you bring your vision alive if...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 4 min
Slow down to leap and live your [Wise Wednesdays]
Slow down. It's the essence of Zen, apparently. And a foundational principle in coaching conversations. In fact, what usually happens...
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Amina Aitsi-Selmi
- Apr 23
- 3 min
When you’re not sure what you want [Wise Wednesdays]
What’s your 5-year plan? That’s a question I’m glad not to hear much these days. As I sit in a sense of something brewing without any...
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