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Happy New Year + 5min ritual [Wise Wednesdays]

Amina Aitsi-Selmi

Wishing you a happy 2025,  - may it be filled with freedom, impact, and fulfilment in every way.


As we transition into the new year, why not take 5 minutes for a simple ritual?


Whether you’re reflecting alone or sharing with others, it’s a grounding way to mark the shift.


Take a deep breath and relax. Then name:


• One thing you’re proud of from 2024.

• One thing you’re letting go of from 2024.

• One thing you’re embracing in 2025.


(Bonus: Use an object to represent each. For what you’re letting go of, choose something that can be destroyed or recycled—like a box or crumpled paper to symbolise self-doubt.)


It's a simple but effective transition process we used this month at The Sanctuary - a space where we dance with change.

Thank you for being part of my community—it means so much.


I’m currently on a meditation retreat as the year begins (this message is scheduled), and I look forward to reconnecting for new career and life transformation journeys!

Til' soon, 

Amina

P.S. January can sometimes feel like a slump, so I’m offering a special Limitless Confidence Deep Dive to make it your springboard month. Break free of self-doubt and uplevel your career and impact. Details and tickets here >> 

[If you're a current client, you'll receive a complimentary gift ticket.]

(Photo and image design: London Bridge at night, by Amina)





But in human relationships, boundary-crossing isn’t so funny. In our competitive, individualistic culture, many interactions—whether with a partner, sibling, or colleague—are shaped by subtle comparison or competition, making trust harder to cultivate. No matter how ‘nice’ you are, they’ll never trust you 100%—unless you start showing up differently and shift the dynamic.


Instead of falling into the trap of being ‘nice’ or overly compliant to keep the peace, try showing up unmasked


Here’s how:


  1. Don’t hide your motivations. If you’re craving connection or reassurance, ask for it directly. Don’t overshare your problems and then cover it up with humour or pretend you have everything under control.

  2. Be mindful of others’ emotions. If someone seems sad or angry while masking it with a smile or intellectualising, set clear boundaries. Let them know you’re present but also communicate your true capacity to support. Avoid shallow exchanges that leave you both feeling drained and unsatisfied.

  3. Choose your own adventure. Let go of cultural expectations about how you should celebrate or connect. Celebrations don’t always need to center around food or be indoors—even in winter. Do what truly nourishes you and invite others along—but hold the energy that it’ll be beautiful whether they join or not. 


Authenticity - being unmasked- is the antidote to resentment and a catalyst for deeper, satisfying connection.


How have you practised being unmasked in your relationships this year? I’d love to hear how Wise Wednesdays has supported you.


Have an unmasked week,

Amina


P.S. What’s cooking chez Dr. Amina for you:



Winter Revelation Sessions: £150 for a 60-minute session + 1 week of Telegram support to turn insights into action. Perfect for exploring what’s calling you and taking the next step. Only a few sessions left—book yours now.


Next Leaders Circle – Limitless Confidence Deep Dive. Join us on Wednesday, January 15th at 6pm UK/1pm ET for this transformative session. Full details coming soon.


The Sanctuary Mastermind (4-Month Program):

Relax, realign, and uplevel your career or step into independent coaching and consulting. Early access applications are open for this small-group transformational experience—apply here. (3 spots already taken by leaders in healthcare and government policy.)


1:1 Coaching: Receive personalised support to catalyse your career or leadership transformation. Let’s explore what working together could look like—reach out.





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