When I wanted to do medicine, they said it was a hard path for a woman When I wanted to study social anthropology for a year they said it was a cop out for a scientist When I wanted to go to Cuba for my elective, they said why not Harvard? When I wanted to do Public Health they said surgery was more glamorous When I wanted to go to South Sudan on a humanitarian mission, they said it will stop your career progress. When I applied for a quarter mil of medical funding for ‘devel
Every year since 2014, I’ve given an interactive lecture for Master’s students at UCL on the obesity pandemic, social inequality and economic transition. The US is the epicentre but populations are affected worldwide including in low- and middle-income countries. The students seem to enjoy the lecture because we explore the complex global mechanics behind an everyday phenomenon but also the practical element – the application of statistics and epidemiology to the real world.
Some hated January. Some loved it (probably if you’re an introvert). No commuting. No office politics. But difficult work-life balance, social isolation and a mounting number of Covid cases. The death of a loved one at Christmas certainly put me out of whack. Some of my clients have weathered geographical dislocation, social isolation, relationships ending and jobs ending (for the best). But they felt more resilient because of the work we’ve done together. So I want to share
I was on a call a couple of months ago with a group of friends who are super successful coaches and consultants. We went around for introductions and everyone shared how overwhelmed they felt. When it was my turn I noticed the pull to echo the sentiment of overwhelm. But also noticed that it would be a lie… Because the truth was I didn’t feel overwhelmed. In fact, this call was the main non-coaching call that day and I was fully present and enjoying the connection. I didn’t h
We can get so hung up on titles and what they mean but no one ever asks what ‘transformation’ as in ‘transformational coach’ means. There’s an intuitive sense of what it means. Things, people, and we ‘transform’ – from one ‘form’ to another – over a lifetime. The pandemic has certainly transformed how we work, raise children and relate to each other. It’s forcing us to reconsider our place in the world and how to be in it. Change and transformation are not the same. Here are
A few thoughts on challenging work culture and the antidotes as we enter a new phase of the pandemic. Work culture is unhealthy when it keeps us caged while benefiting from our efforts. That’s called slavery in fact - of the psychological kind. One of the ways this psychological cage is built is by playing on the fear that perhaps who we are and where we find ourselves in life isn’t OK. The urgency of having to be busy or become someone different is hyped up in toxic work cul
There are 4 main survival strategies. Most people are aware of ‘fight or flight’. Some people know ‘freeze’. Few are aware of ‘fawn’. Fawning is less well recognised as a survival mechanism because it serves a significant social function and is reinforced by society. Fawning is essentially the people-pleasing reflex. Even though I’m generally outspoken, I still notice myself doing it to avoid conflict. If you lean towards people-pleasing, 2 things in particular might make you
Recently, I’ve spoken with a number of pretty stellar women who feel unsure about what they have to offer.
I’ve had coaching conversations with an engineer who had worked with the UN on climate change; an experienced vice president in tech who single-handedly raised her son; a doctor specialised in global health security who is leading in the national response to the pandemic.
Like many powerful and empathic women, they give a lot. But often feel it's not enough.
It’s starting to sink in. The book is coming out tomorrow. It’s called The Success Trap: why good people stay in jobs they don’t like and how to break free. If you’re thinking of starting a creative project, I want to share two challenges I had to overcome. “I don’t have time” It was 12 months ago that I’d really started to find my writing groove and was looking forward to focused writing time in December. Six months before that I’d submitted a proposal to a publisher (Kogan
Recently, I spoke to two women who’ve worked with the UN and have had similar experiences to mine. They’ve both had to take big career leaps including leaps into the UN and out of it. I wondered why some people were OK taking these leaps. Was there something different about them? One of these women is Allyson Scammell who worked with NGOs and intergovernmental organisations before setting up her own intuitive business coaching practice. This aligned better with her true passi